- Determine the values you want your child to have as an adult, and tailor parenting methods that teach these principles. Teach by example.
- Try to structure situations so that the child’s ability to comply will be fostered.
- Focus on why rules are necessary.
- Look for clues to what may have prompted the defiant behavior.
- Use empathy plus limit setting. Express an understanding of the child’s position, but clearly state and enforce the rules.
- Use positive-reinforcement to teach children long-term incentives for good behavior.
